Orgasms always feel pretty great, but there are certainly ways to increase the intensity of them. Here are three ways you can achieve mind-blowing orgasms naturally.
Focus On Your Breathing During Sex
In the heat of passion, this is the last thing you probably want to be thinking about. But, surprisingly, changing your breathing pattern can help increase an orgasm’s impact.
“By training the diaphragm, the muscular partition that separates the chest and abdominal cavity, you can really increase the intensity of your orgasm,” says sex educator Robert O. Hawkins, Jr.
During sex, as you feel an orgasm approach, by breathing more strongly and consciously than usual and forcing each breath out from the diaphragm, you’ll increase the tension through your whole abdomen and upper body, raising the intensity of the orgasm.
You can delay ejaculation and thereby increase the intensity of your orgasms by strengthening the pelvic muscles around the base of the penis. You can do this by practicing kegel exercises, named for the man who invented them.
“These are the muscles you’d squeeze to avoid urinating,” says Hawkins. Originally used to help women with continence problems, these exercises can also help men stave off ejaculation and make it more powerful.
Relaxing Creates Stronger Orgasms
At the beginning of arousal, you’ll need to be in a reasonably relaxed state to get the sexual tension rolling. “Often the reasons for lackluster orgasms have little to do with our bodies,” says Hawkins. “We have 10 times more demands on our attention than we did when we were younger, and that makes it hard to keep the focus on pure sexual excitement.”
“Cutting out distractions helps you relax, and that helps your erection along by widening the arteries of the penis so blood flows in freely to swell the tissues,” says Hawkins.
Get In The Right Sexual Position
“One of my goals in life is to reverse the national sex position—turn the man over and put him on his back, under the woman, so he can relax without having to support his weight,” says Hawkins.
Goals like that won’t win him the Nobel but hear him out. “Because sexual arousal itself builds plenty of tension, the more you add to it in the early stage by tensing your muscles to maintain a position, the less control you have over your ejaculation and orgasm.”
Then let yourself go. When you feel it’s time for the final approach, you can ensure an ecstatic orgasm by moving from a relaxed position to one that gives you ample possibilities for tension and movement.
You can roll over to the standard missionary position, using your upper body muscles for support and your pelvic muscles to thrust.
Now that you’ve reached the stage of inevitability, you reverse your tactics. You quit relaxing. You thrust, you move, you breathe hard and deeply, you abandon yourself completely. “By alternately building up tension and relaxing to maintaining control, you create a situation for a truly ecstatic orgasm,” says Hawkins.